🤝 Friendship, Seasons of Life, and Resonance

Why People Stay, Why People Leave, and What It Reveals Through Similarity Theory

🌦️ Opening Reflection — The Friends Who Come and Go

There is a quiet truth many people only discover after they have lived through both prosperity and hardship.

When life is going well — when you have a good income, confidence, stability, and momentum — you often find yourself surrounded by people. Success radiates warmth, and warmth draws company. Some come because they admire you, some because they enjoy the energy of stability, and some simply because life is easier beside those who are doing well.

But when life turns downward — when money becomes tight, when circumstances grow heavy, when the shine fades — the crowd thins. Many of those who gathered around your success gradually drift away. Only a few remain: the ones who speak to you, check on you, or offer their presence without expecting anything in return. And during those darker seasons, you often meet new people who seem sincere, supportive, and grounded. It’s natural to think:

“These are the real friends. These are the ones who truly care.”

Yet, when you rise again — when your life improves, opportunities reopen, and your confidence returns — something surprising happens: many of the friends who supported you during hardship begin to pull away. Their warm tone cools. Their kindness becomes minimal. Their congratulations feel hollow.

Only a very small number — sometimes just one — genuinely celebrate your success with a full heart.

And that is when you finally understand:

The real friends are the ones who remain steady in every season — not just in your darkness or in your light.

This experience is universal.
It is human.
And it aligns perfectly with the principles of Similarity Theory.

🎵 Resonance — Why This Happens

In Similarity Theory, every person carries a resonance — shaped by their maturity, layers, insecurities, fears, and inner evolution.

When your life is down

Your resonance is humble, gentle, non-threatening.
People who feel insecure within themselves often feel comfortable around you during these times. They relate to your struggle. They feel close to you because your energy sits at a similar level to theirs.

When your life rises

Your resonance strengthens.
You expand.
You grow.
You ascend.

This can unsettle those who:

define themselves through comparison
need you to stay “small” to feel comfortable
fear being left behind
only feel secure when you are struggling

Your success rubs against their wounds — not because you did anything wrong, but because your new frequency no longer matches theirs.

This is not personal.
It is resonance.

🧗‍♂️ Layers — Dimensional Maturity and Emotional Capacity

Similarity Theory teaches that people live within layers of consciousness, even while sharing the same physical world.

A friend who can celebrate you in hardship and success is someone operating in a higher, stable layer — where:

self-worth is not fragile
comparison is unnecessary
jealousy does not arise
your success feels like a shared joy, not a threat

A friend who supports you only during hardship often feels comfortable at that stage because:

they feel equal
they feel needed
they feel safe
your vulnerability makes them feel less vulnerable

But when you begin rising, their layer is exposed. Your growth highlights their stagnation. Their insecurity surfaces.

Their layer cannot follow your movement upward.

This fits Similarity Theory’s principle:

Layers attract upwards only when consciousness is ready. Otherwise, they resist the movement.

🧲 Attraction and Repulsion — Natural Laws at Work

According to Similarity Theory, relationships shift according to natural laws:

⬇️ When you fall

You attract those who resonate with humility, struggle, or vulnerability.

⬆️ When you rise

Only those with similar upward resonance remain aligned with you.

🔄 When resonance mismatches

People fade away naturally — not out of malice, but because the energetic match has ended.

This is simply the universe reorganising your connections according to your new state of being.

Friendships are bound to frames of time.
Some frames teach resilience and empathy.
Others teach clarity and boundaries.
A few rare ones accompany your entire journey — because the resonance remains stable across all frames.

🌱 The Rare Friends Who Are Truly Yours

A true friend — through the lens of Similarity Theory — is someone whose resonance remains aligned with yours no matter which direction your life moves.

These rare individuals:

stay with you in darkness
celebrate you in light
feel no jealousy
feel no comparison
rise with you, because they grow with you
love your soul, not your situation
remain constant across the frames of time

They are not drawn to you because of money, comfort, or convenience.
They are drawn to you because your resonance matches theirs in substance, depth, and movement.

These are the friendships that endure.

In the language of your theory:

They share your layer, your resonance, and your trajectory through the frames — and that is why they walk beside you, season after season.